I used to think that giving meant taking a sum of money and sending it somewhere–like to starving kids in Africa. This quote from Maya Angelou struck me like a bullet and put things in perspective: “If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love. Don’t be surly at [...]

I used to believe that in order to create shifts in life it was important to surround yourself with supportive people. For example, if you want to start eating well, surround yourself with folks who eat well and stop eating out with folks who eat junk. This can be pretty limiting and isolating, right? After [...]

Each year as Valentine’s Day approaches I think about the concept of love. Not necessarily the Hallmark version, but my own version. Where being in love is more than a romantic relationship–it’s a state of being. What I’m getting at–is fall in love with yourself. Everything else will fall into place. Here’s my experience and [...]

Here are two of the most common words I hear from clients: “It’s hard….” Here are some of the ways these words are said: It’s hard because no one listens to me.                                   Getting this done takes a lot of effort. I’m working at finding balance. Being a parent is hard. I have a secret. If [...]

A dear friend of mine shared some good news. Her relationship–the one that had been on the rocks for a while-had completely transformed. “What happened?” I asked. “I stopped telling myself the same story about it.” “What do you mean?” She explained that each time “the narrator” (her term for the voice inside her head) [...]

I learned an important lesson a few years ago. I was living with someone I cared very deeply for. However, I was in a rut and always down on myself. I treated him badly. I treated myself even worse. My inner critic was relentless. After struggling for quite some time I decided to move out [...]